SCRIBBLED NOTES #6: ARAY! WHY PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE?

1. They had been hurt and never healed.

* They've been damaged by pain, rejection, non-love. * They've experienced violence, abuse (verbal or non-verbal). * They think that the best defense is offense.

2. They (too) are hurting. 3. They are getting even to the world (consciously or not). 4. It is the only way they know. 5. They are afraid to get hurt first.

I'm sure we know someone who has this traits. Or probably we are 'that' person.

WHEN WE HURT PEOPLE:

- our basic human goodness gets offended.

- our conscience is wounded. Please listen to your good side.

- we lose our potential healers and helpers. People close to you get hurt 
because you can't hurt those who doesn't love you.

- we just prolong a cycle / lifestyle of pain.

That said, now: HOW TO STOP HURTING PEOPLE?

** Heal / forgive those who hurt you.  
Mahirap mag-patawad pero MAS mahirap hindi magpatawad.

** Stop making excuses for not being loving / tender. Be nice. 
STOP blaming your upbringing (pinalaki kasi akong ganito eh!). Almost everything can be learned.

** MAKE an effort (remember your special someone's birthday! Yihee). 
Be good at loving people.

** Forgive yourself. Everyone deserves 
a 2nd chance at life. That includes you. ☺

** Be more sensitive. Stop our wicked ways. 
Bakit mo sasaktan ang mga taong nagma-malasakit sa'yo?

** Understand then avoid the cycle of pain. 
Deception: You hurt therefore you should hurt others in return! (LIE!).  
Stop the cycle by not taking revenge.

** Do not be an agent of pain. Fight the tendency to strike back.  
Don't give the devil a chance.

** FILL your lives with love, happiness and peace ☺

Pag masaya ka, mas mabait ka (ask the people who are in-loooove ♥)

** Pag at peace ka, mas madali kang kausap (try mong kausapin ang gutom!)

** How to find love, peace etc. is your own personal search.

** FILL your life with BIG things. Wise people keep small things ... well, small.

** LOVE is a VERB. Action item.

** We should be an agent of peace and love.

There is a child in each
one of us looking for love,
 kausap, kalaro sa buhay :)

** Everyone (kahit 50 years old na) is a child. (awwwww!)

There is a child in each one of us looking for love, kausap, kalaro sa buhay :)

** Return LOVE for hatred. This is where GOD triumphs. 

True religion means mabuti kang tao (hindi hayop).

** Let's stop needless rejection of people. 

Minsan sa tingin mo pa lang nag-rereject ka na eh.

** Be like JESUS. Be LOVING. Be POSITIVE.

** Don't reject people simply for who and what they are.

** With LOVE we can make a BEAUTIFUL world.

** LOVE always wins. Accepting {people} is always nicer than rejecting them.

Side Note: Natamaan ako ng bongga sa scribbled notes na ito. 

*Aray! indeed!* I hope to be more loving from this day forward. -CMK 

Acknowledgments: 
>> This is an excerpt from my notes on Kuya Ed's talk 
entitled "Aray! Why people hurt people?"
>> Photo Credits: Google Images